Having spent forty years in his own personal wilderness, Aaron was lost and needed to find the pieces of his scattered life so he could put them back together again. His life was like that of a broken puzzle fanatic who kept picking up boxes of yard sale puzzles, as he looked for the one or two pieces in each one that would fit the empty holes in his own confused life. He never found them, but he was possessed of an incurable optimism and kept the search going. He couldn’t keep all the pieces with him, however, for his street life precluded carrying all these broken parts. He had to keep moving, so letting go of those things that didn’t fit was an imperative. The pieces that didn’t fit anymore needed to be cast away and new ones had to be put in their place.
Letting go of our old pieces of our puzzle leaves an empty hole, however, and we feel the loss of that part. We can either look for a pre-made part, or we can make our own. This is why so many people move from experience to experience, for they are looking for the perfect shape to fill that empty hole. They seek new age religions, old age religions, health foods, sexual unions, cleansing cures, purity, hedonism, drugs, or anything else that someone claims will fill this empty hole. If we decide to make our own missing piece, we have to be fashioning the new portion even before we recognize that the old one doesn’t fit us any more. This is the art that Michael understands so well. He can recognize the missing shape even before the one who is searching is aware of the emptiness.
It is a gift from the god of all care and compassion, for not all people can read the hearts and minds of those who are hurting. Most of us just feel their hurt and want to leave the vicinity as quickly as possible, for that much pain is too much for us to bear in addition to our own burdens. Michael is called, however, to stand with the hurting and the broken over a long period of time. He has the mind and heart of a farmer, who knows that while the planting may be the work of our hands, the growth belongs to god. Sometimes we will work our best and the harvest will be poor, other times the harvest will be great. We always work in hope, however, trusting that the god of all grace will bring the seed to full harvest in god’s own time.
Michael would tell me of those early days with Aaron during our planning times. His first impressions of Aaron were of his woundedness, inside and out. “He has the heart of a warrior, however,” Michael said over our shared meal of fowl and first wild greens from the valley below. We were just beginning our outer year after our winter sanctuary retreat. The fresh salad was a delight to my mouth and I was lingering over each morsel.
“Why do you say this?” I asked.
Michael answered, “He hasn’t given up on life, but has found a way to survive. Others may see him as down on his luck or as beyond help, but even as despised as he is by the conventional social world, he still retains his moral code.”
I raised an eyebrow at this statement, indicating both an interest and a certain suspicion of the existence of an actual moral code in a street person. From my own experience serving in the cities, the street people would come into the temples and tell their hard luck stories to the priest. These stories were always well rehearsed and designed for maximum emotional pull on the heartstrings of any who heard it. The congregants of the temple were “hard hearted” or immune to these pitches because they had heard the same story over and over, sometimes from the very same street people. The priests, however, always seemed to be a “soft touch” or more tender hearted.
In my own experiences, I had learned that people were usually one of two types who came seeking help at the temples of the gods: those who stole from everyone, even god, and those who were honestly seeking help to have a need met. The first would rob god, their parents, or their best friend if they had one. The latter became your friend for life because you stood with them in their time of need. Since I serve the god of all comfort and compassion, my goal is to stand with those in need and to help them when I can. However, I don’t have to help the robbers who would steal from the poor to make themselves rich, or who would take from those who have true needs.
“So what exactly is Aaron’s moral code?” I asked, suppressing my disbelief that this ragged fellow could even have a moral compass after all these years on the street. After all, I know and trust my friend Michael. His gift of discernment has never been wrong. Our god seems to test the even the most confused spirits through my coworker in the faith. Nothing seems to get past his watch.
“He does no harm, he seeks to do good, and he loves his god,” Michael answered. “He says he keeps it as simple and uncomplicated as he can, because life as a warrior means you don’t have time to think about what’s right and what’s wrong. You have to know it in your heart deeply so that you can act quickly. Likewise, on the streets, life is the same way,” he said. “It’s like a battleground, for your survival is at stake. Some people will do anything to stay alive on the streets: lie, cheat, steal, sell their body, or sell drugs to get by or get high. They do whatever they can to get through the days and nights and not experience the complete degradation of their lives into nothingness as they are reduced to living on the back steps, doorways, and underpasses of the cities. To become nothing and completely numb to who you are is to be dead. As long as you remember who you are, you are still alive.”
“And his god?” I asked. “How does he love and serve his god?”
“He is a warrior, so he feels called to protect the weak. The children who ended up on the streets looked up to him. He said they reminded him of the ones he taught on the Hot Continent, but their eyes were so haunted from the abuse and misery of the homes they fled. He protected them from worse predators who were out on the streets until they were able to face their fears and seek help from the homes for runaway children.”
I knew of the places that he spoke, for my own daughter had spent time in such a home. Not that it did her much good, for she was a wild one. She didn’t want to live with me and didn’t want to live with her father either. I guess she wanted to be on her own, but she was too young. Since she wouldn’t stay, they couldn’t keep her. Finally she got the reputation as a persistent runaway and no one would take her in. One day I keep thinking she will see the light, but that hasn’t happened yet. The street life isn’t the sweet life.
“These are all the good things, but surely not everything is peaches and cream in this early time with him? We are asking him to adjust from a freestyle life to an ordered life.”
Michael laughed. This is one of the best qualities of my friend, his easygoing manner. He never gets frustrated, but takes all things in his stride. Things that might irritate me just seem to roll like water off his back. I have to consciously set aside these aggravations everyday in my quiet time, but they never seem to even touch Michael. This is why he is so good at healing both the body and the mind.
It’s also why Michael is a wonder in our garden. He knows that weather happens and that nothing we mortals can do will control the storms and droughts that are part of our growing season. He has invented some wonderful irrigation contraptions and has improved our soil content to overcome the lack of water, but he can’t do anything about the hailstorms that ravage our salads or beat down our grain crops. I really hate it when the torrents drop out and wash out our freshly seeded furrows. All our good work goes for nothing. “Not for nothing, Miriam! We have improved the land below, and grain will volunteer on the hillsides. We’ll have a free harvest there also!” I fret and Michael always thinks positive! I am learning from him everyday.
“Yes, not all things are as they seem. As much as our new friend wants to believe his life is still pure and unsullied after all his time on the streets, he is in denial about his dependence on the slow death. We have him on a concoction of herbs that mimic the effects on the mind and the body as the actual drug leaves his system. Once he is physically clean, then we will taper off this herbal brew that he’s been drinking.” Michael can see into a person’s soul, no matter how many walls or doors it is hiding behind.
“Moreover, Aaron isn’t used to our order’s daily routine just yet. He is still on street time, so he wants to sleep late. I roust him out of bed anyhow. I think a week or two more will reset his clock to our schedule. The good new is that he is eager to work at whatever task that I assign him. He says that keeping busy keeps him from thinking too much.”
Michael and I agree that Aaron has deep wounds that need healing, so we end our meeting with a prayer to the god of all compassion and comfort: “Touch Aaron’s heart with tender hands of healing power, take away his pain and sorrow, and give him the joy of a new today and a better tomorrow. Help us to walk with him in both the smooth and rough places of his healing journey.”
As Michael left to return to his garden, I thought about his deep connection to the rhythms of the soils and growth. I can always find him turning the soil when the last remains of the winter snows are still on the ground. “Isn’t that hard work? Why don’t you wait until the whole thing melts off and the ground is soft?”
Michael laughs at me as he leans on his long handled shovel, which he has worn smooth from years of this early routine. “I’m working a good manure into the soil to prepare it for planting. The snows will melt and distribute the nutrients throughout the depths of the ground. Good preparation means a good harvest!” He wasn’t working hard; he was working smart. I just didn’t know enough about gardening to know the difference. He also had been in the caves all winter along with the rest of our order, and he had energy to burn. The garden was a very good place for my friend.
Most of us think being spared the manures of life is the best preparation for a good later life. This isn’t the life in a garden, however. Plenty of manure gets spread about and the ground is spaded and turned upside down. Transformation is the norm in the garden, not sameness. If a seed is planted, it too must be transformed to bear its harvest: flowers, fruit, herb, or vegetable. If it remains only a seed, it isn’t growing. If it transforms, it is living out god’s highest purpose for it.
I’ve never understood why some people quit growing in love, grace, care and compassion. Instead they begin to grow angry, mean hardhearted, stingy, and hateful. Rather than growing in love, their love seems to die daily. In the garden of life, they would be weeds, choking out the good growth that feeds the world’s hungry, hopeless, hurting and homeless peoples. These weeds would keep all the food for themselves. Perhaps this is why the gardener pulls up the weeds and casts them aside to be burned, for the weed in the garden thinks only of itself, and not of the world beyond the garden. The seeds grow up to give their lives for all, even those beyond the boundaries of the garden itself.
Instead of cursing the manure that falls into our lives, perhaps we should see it as the nutrients that make us stronger. Just as athletes add repetitions, weight, intensity or a combination of all three of these to their training practices, getting “dumped on” is an experience ripe for reframing. How we perceive tough times can help us go from surviving to thriving, from staying fixed to making growth. If we think of these manure times as an opportunity to make our soil more productive and healthy, then our lives can take off and grow. If we think of them as times of punishment and scorn, we won’t grow, for we’ll close ourselves off to whatever nourishment might be available. Like the Miracle Grow Fertilizer of earth, our new bodies and souls will be taller, wider, and more colorful than the plants that haven’t received the other generous potion.
Perhaps the lost piece of the puzzle is accepting that the journey won’t be smooth. Transformation means radical change, and that is a rocky road also. For some of us, the lost puzzle piece means learning to love our deepest selves as god loves us. If we have never loved anyone or anything unconditionally, finding this piece of the puzzle is overwhelming. For others of us, this radical transformation will mean not only a new life and new habits, but also a new calling. Only the god of care and compassion knows what path Aaron is going to choose, but that bridge will be crossed in the days and weeks to come.